Were the classic Disney princesses really just ‘waiting for a man’?

Just because they’re classics created from classics, that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t analyze the messages they’re sending.

“Don’t you think that it’s weird that the prince kisses Snow White without her permission?” Kristen [Bell] said she asks her girls. “Because you can not kiss someone if they’re sleeping!” — Parents interview

Kids are sponges. They take in everything, even (or, perhaps, especially) things that adults notice. So it definitely doesn’t hurt to be on alert to try and keep an eye on the less than savory messages they could be internalizing. And, yes, I’m talking all kids. It’s just as important that sons know that kissing a passed out girl isn’t going to make them a prince as it is to teach girls that being kissed while passed out isn’t ok.

“Every time we close Snow White I look at my girls and ask, ‘Don’t you think it’s weird that Snow White didn’t ask the old witch why she needed to eat the apple? Or where she got that apple?’ I say, ‘I would never take food from a stranger, would you?’ And my kids are like, ‘No!’ And I’m like, ‘Okay, I’m doing something right.’” — Parents interview

Kids are very likely to run into Disney’s take on these stories one way or another. Disney has a huge campaign surrounded around these characters. You can’t go to a toy store without running into them, and you probably can’t go to any American Kindergarten without at least some of the kids having chosen one of the classic trio as their favorite. One of my nieces chose Cinderella at that age. (The other chose Tiana.)

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